11 May, 2013

Family Ties


I’m back!
And so’s my brother!
(If you’re still with me, THANK YOU!)

Poseidon (see this post) is fine, back in the country for the time being (he’s military), and actually we just celebrated his birthday together – YaY! I'd not seen or spoken to Poseidon for about 8 years. Long story short, he reunited with our parents last summer, and when a crisis happened in his life this spring, the girls came to live with Mom and Dad.

His two little girls are a joy.
The girls:
I’ll call the oldest (5yo) Titania because she is SO very fairy-like: An elfin face, running around on tiptoe, fluttering her hands with excitement. She is a child who sparkles. If I posted a picture of her, you'd see it. It’s in her energy, her eyes, her manic grin. I love this girl.

If big-sis is Titania, her younger sister (1yo) shall be called Tinkerbell – just as light as a feather, and well-suited to Tinkerbell-green. Tinkerbell is just as sweet as sweet can be. She’s such a happy baby that if she’s fussy, you know something is wrong. She’s observant, too. She’s already figured out cause and effect: If she makes goofy noises with her mouth, so will all the adults around the table – then she can stop and watch us! Very clever, little lady.

Observations on my brother, after having ZERO contact for 8(give or take) years:
1.This is a kinder, gentler Poseidon.
Although truthfully, he was always a pretty sweet kid…even if I was a snarky older sister who gave him a lot of grief in high school. He gave it right back, so I think we’re even.

2.How did he get so smart?
He was talking about financial matters like saving for his daughters’ education and major money stuff in such a way that he actually sounded more like our big bro Zeus!

3.Family is still family.
It’s amazing to me how little has changed. We’re “all growed up” now, but the interaction is basically the same. As hurt as I was, as concerned as I was for his well-being – none of that matters now. He’s here, and he clearly appreciates his family, whether he agrees with everything we say and do or not.

Seeing him so much in the last few weeks... just like old times, but grown up, I realized that the family feels complete again. I didn't realize it was incomplete.

If you have any estranged family-members, reach out to them. Don't lose hope. Family ties are a unique and special bond, that cannot be denied.

I'm so glad to be back! I can get back on-track with my resolution to post at least once a week!

13 comments:

  1. I'm glad you're back! I'm also really happy that things are working out so well with your family. You're very lucky.

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    1. Thank you! I hope to get back into visiting and commenting on blogs again, too. It's just hard to get online after a day staring at the computer!

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  2. What a happy story!!! I'm so glad to hear you're back in contact with your bro. And welcome back!!

    Hugs!

    Valerie

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    1. Thanks! It's pretty cool, and it was a long time coming.

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  3. That's great! And no one even had to go on a wacky adventure with cloak and daggers and mystery and hot air balloons to find him. Wait, on second thought, that might have been better...

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    1. I might push my brother away just so I can find him again in a hot air balloon.

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    2. I always figured in his own good time, he would figure out he needed us.

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  4. I've loved hearing this story and can't wait to meet him.

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    1. I think you guys will find ample to talk about!

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  5. Those are perfect names!
    I agree with your observations and think this just proves that males tend to mature later than females (birth order and family size probably compound the issue).

    Hestia

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    1. Thank you! My little "fairy princesses"...

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  6. Oh man, I missed your triumphant return!! Sorry about that. I was checking back occasionally for a while there, and I guess I kind of gave up. But I'm here now, so there you go. :)

    My husband's brother estranged himself from the family for quite a few years. It was hard, because he is a super kind and fun guy, and it was like he just disappeared. There are many reasons, at least the ones we suspect, mostly having to do with his wife and another sister, but the good news is that he is back. He actually made it clear that he was tired of being away from his awesome family and was going to be around, no matter what! And he has. He has been an amazing uncle to my kids in the past year or so, and it's just a shame they missed so much time with each other before that, because they are just the bestest of buddies. We are so happy to have him back in the fold. Family is family, like you say!

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    1. Yay! The reunion part is so great, isn't it?

      In my case, there really was no "making things clear"...although my mom may have done a lot of that. He did express gratitude that his little girls will be in regular contact with their aunts who will look out for them. I said, "we're family. It's what we do." and that was that.

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