26 January, 2017

Five Minutes of Control

Today I am participating in Five-Minute Friday (back from a holiday hiatus). On these posts, I am following the one-word prompt from Kate at Heading Home

If you want to join, click that link to her blog. Every Friday is a new word, and the only rules are:  Write for 5 minutes.  Link your post on hers.  (You have a whole week to get your post up.)
 
 

It's pretty cool, and I find a new blog every week.
(Now if only I would make the time to revisit more often during the week.)
 
This week's one-word is "Control".
 
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I don't think I'm a "control freak"  but I am a planner. I make lists of what needs to be done, delegate if possible, get things done in advance as much as I can, and try to make things go smoothly. When I married a "pantster" - my word for someone who flies by the seat of their pants - we had to find compromise.

We love our road trips. We travel well together. So... if we are taking a trip for him, or to visit his friends, he makes whatever plans need made. If it is for me, or to visit my peeps, I determine what needs to be set in stone.

Our greatest example was a trip we took to one of my friends' wedding out in Utah. We wanted to make an adventure of it, so planned a week-long trip, flying into and out of Denver and renting a car. My trip - My timeline. I controlled ordering airplane tickets, renting a car, dates we stayed with my aunt, hotel reservations in Moab. Timeline?
Be at the airport by XXX time.
Be at hotel in Moab by XXX.
Be back at my aunt's house for supper on XX/XX/XX.

It worked beautifully. Between then, we visited a friend of his, stopped at whatever sites he decided on each day, and even made a mutual decision to stay one extra night in Moab before heading back.

Sometimes, relinquishing control can help you find adventures you might have missed!

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16 comments:

  1. And that was one of our best trips ever. I loved that adventure. Even getting lost in the desert and thinking we were going to die.

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    1. I can't wait to take our own trips in China... not school-sponsored!

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  2. Sounds nice! And I definitely wanna check out this prompt thing.

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    1. I enjoy Five Minute Friday because it keeps me regular (haha. Like ex-lax for writers' block.)

      ...should it be writers' block or writer's block, I wonder?

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  3. I didn't even realize it is time for FMF! I am a control freak. Something that hasn't made me popular with my family. But it is what it is!! Sounds like that was a great trip and you guys were able to compromise!

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    1. I actually thought maybe I could squeak in last week's FMF, but discovered that a new one was up!

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  4. I love how you guys have your ways of planning trips. And how fun when there is the flexibility to stay extra time and explore! You're right. There is fun to be had when we relinquish control. :)

    So nice to "meet" you!

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    1. We recognize each other's strengths, and that, I believe, is a strength in our relationship.

      Nice to meet you!

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  5. Great post. I tend to be pretty laid-back when I travel alone (sure, I'll find a hotel, somewhere...) but when travelling with my wife I'd plan things down to the half-hour...and it was fun. She appreciated the structure.

    #1 at FMF this week.

    http://blessed-are-the-pure-of-heart.blogspot.com/2017/01/your-dying-spouse-264-theres-still-work.html

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    1. If we are visiting "his" people, he determines the level of structure - usually minimal!

      Thanks for visiting. I'll check you out.

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  6. Finding adventures you may have missed when you release control. LOVE LOVE LOVE that line. Welcome to FMF. The Darth Vader drew me in to read. Jenn, Boymom in FL
    #23 at FMF this week

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    1. When I was single, I took a massive road-trip, and was so proud that I veered from my schedule One Time. Just one. I'm opening up!

      Thanks for giving me your number at FMF. I'll check you out!

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  7. So thankful you visited my blog and shared you story there and here. We are star wars fans so it is good to see your blog Avatar...But I wonder why Darth? Do you feel dark? Come to the Light side ;). May God bless you as you plan trips and your day today. My hubby and I love panster moments too. We also like to travel! Happy Sunday. Jenn

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    1. Haha! Darth is not symbolic. Actually when I set this up I had a Yoda avi on Pinterest or facebook.

      I don't know why I picked it, really. Unpredictable, I guess.

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  8. Same for me... I married a panster. I'm a planner too. I totally get what you're saying. Great post. You can find mine here:
    Puppet Master

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    1. Life is compromise in our positions!
      Thanks for visiting.

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