23 April, 2022

Truth Be Told... #AtoZChallenge

Truth be told, I can't lie.

I can tell a half-truth; I can stretch the truth; I can't outright lie. 

Is it a gift? Is it a curse?

Even excuses. I realized long ago that giving an untrue excuse to get out of something never worked. People have an answer for anything. 

Last week, at a networking luncheon I saw a friend I haven't seen in a while, but we didn't get a chance to talk. As I was leaving she said to come over later for a "small barbecue"... but I was just leaving a big social event and I can't handle too much socializing in one day. I kind of nodded - already dazed at the concept of going out again - and she said, "message me" and I left, agonizing about whether to go or not. Because I like her, and haven't seen her for weeks, and would love to talk to her, but I was just about maxed out on socializing for the week. 

Twitter suggested "claim diarrhea" to get out of a social engagement. Which wasn't really a social engagement. She was just saying I should stop by later. Totally casual, but I was in a spin.

I can't outright say I had diarrhea. That's a lie! I tell the truth!

So, which truth to tell: "I have moderate social anxiety and as much as I value our friendship, my brain is exhausted from talking to too many people - when I would rather have been talking to you - and I now feel I wasted that luncheon when I should have been catching up with you instead of debating the weather with some other woman"?

Or the truth that "I was utterly exhausted and lost my afternoon and still have things that I need to get done"...Which I did. The meal at lunch was carb-heavy, pub-fare, a lot of fried stuff, and although I did not have diarrhea, I did succumb to a food coma and read/nap in the hammock out front instead of doing my writing and editing.

I told her the second. Truth, and gentler (for both of us) than my confessing to my extroverted friend that as an introvert I can't be "on" all the time. She immediately agreed that lunch was a carb-fest and she, too, had similar issues with her day.

I was right to do so. A couple days later I had to give myself a day off and just stay home doing nothing. My brain, body, and heart were exhausted. This is how it can get for us introverts!

Or is it? Are you introverted? How does it effect you?

10 comments:

  1. Post this Covid pandemic (and I hope we are past the worst) I have become wary of big social gatherings and try to space out meeting people. Giving a suitable excuse to not attend is always difficult and i find truth is always the best solution. Else one is trapped in a series of lies.

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    1. That is a very good point! For a while we intentionally shied away from social gatherings. Now it's more of a habit.

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  2. I love to socialize but the part where you mentioned about giving oneself a day off doing nothing. I love that too !

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    1. I don't mind socializing, but I know when it becomes too much. To thine own self be true!

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  3. Iam an introvert a big one, almost considered abnormal at my home where everyone loves socializing a lot...i always try finding excuses and escape mechanisms and everyone knows exactly what am doing. Sigh...not sure if it's a disease but in covid i got used to solitude more...am glad ur friend atleast understood u. After baby my own company and me time seem so precious to me


    Vising from http://afshan-shaik.blogspot.com/

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    1. Oh, a baby definitely requires a lot of time and energy! I'm sure I would be the same.

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  4. Yeah, I guess I'm pretty introverted. And I'm pretty much a homebody much of the time. I always try to be honest as much as I can. I forget the exact saying, but someone said something like: "Always tell the truth so you don't have to remember which lies you told." and there's "The truth will eventually catch up to you if you tell a lie."

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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    1. It will and it does. I tend to watch from the sidelines in bafflement when others get caught in a lie.

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  5. Oh yea, that would have been too much. I mean, you could always just not text. As far as I'm concerned, "text me and we'll meet up later" is more often than not open to flaking on. And rather than lie, just say you "can't make it". Because that's not a lie. You're just not providing the reasons why you can't.

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    1. That's true. You are better than I am at this!

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