10 April, 2018

Instincts - Follow Them

In a dance club in Chicago, a guy I had met and was enjoying - dancing - suddenly asked me if I wanted to get a drink, and took my wrist as I said no. He took my wrist and pulled. Somewhat firmly. I'm not a wimp. I pulled away and said, "I'm not interested. No." And I lost myself in the crowd. He may have called me a bad name as I did so.

Was he a bad guy? Maybe not. Maybe so.
But I wasn't about to wait around and find out the hard way!

Not just about relationships. No.

When I was looking for apartments, I knew the first place I looked was right for me. My gut knew it. I still looked into two more developments, to please everyone else and their standards. "You can't just take the first place you look." Why not? Sure enough, I took that first apartment. My instinct was correct. I only moved out of that perfect place because I was getting married and we needed a bigger place.

I am an advocate of taking a night to "sleep on it", however. It's a kind of gut-check, I guess.

I was looking for jobs and had two promising interviews in the same week.  The second one was the one that excited me.  The first one gave me a solid offer first. I waited, and called the second one to see how close they'd be to making a decision. In the end, after sleeping and praying on it, I said no to the offer I had, even before getting an offer from the second place. I followed my instinct against the advice of those around me.

What are some occasions you made an instinctive decision that turned out well?
Did your gut ever steer you wrong?

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15 comments:

  1. We bought our current house because I saw it by accident (I'd turned the wrong corner) and it just looked "right" for us - it took 6mths to sell our old house and in the meantime we looked at lots of other options - but ultimately it came back to this one and it all fell into place.
    Same with my husband - I met him and married him in less than a year - polar opposites and after 35 yrs we're still going strong. Glad that gut instinct proved to be right!

    Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au
    I for If Opportunity….

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    1. Yes! That can happen. (On both counts)
      Good for you!

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  2. Are you me? That is my decision-checking process too. I advocate it widely among clients and friends. I describe it as the "what you can live with *now* test otherwise you'll end up chasing yourself down blind alleys trying cover every what if out there".

    A-Zing this year at:
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  3. Instinct often steers us the right direction. Occasionally it derails.
    Happy A to Zing
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    1. You are correct. That's why I take a night on big decisions.

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  4. That is so true. Nice reading your post. Thank you for sharing :)

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  5. I was house-hunting in Arizona in March and looked at a lot of homes, but knew instinctively when I entered the one I wanted to make an offer on. It was the last house I looked at. I told the realtor I didn't need to see any more after that one.

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    1. We've been apartment hunting for a while. I realized my husband has a stricter list of "must haves" so I let him do the initial hunt. If he finds something he can live with, then I go double check.

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  6. Yes! Marriage to my second husband was an instinct. He was much older than me. But he was my soulmate. I will never regret following my instincts.

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    1. The key, I've found, is to actually listen to your instinct, and not be blinded by your wishes.

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  7. Sometimes it takes quite a bit of courage to follow your instincts, especially when others are telling you to do otherwise. Sometimes you just know!

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    1. Yes! Very few people who offer me unsolicited advice have lived my life and understand my mind.

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